School starts soon so I thought it would be a good time to post a University Tips Pt.2 to answer your questions about how to make friends. Click here if you missed the first part of this series.
University is funny because it gives you the opportunity to make friends but it also doesn’t. If you live on campus, you have so many more resources for making friends, but you have to act on them. In my first year I missed the boat because I did not talk to my floor mates on the first day. I was in a new place, and my anxiety was in full throttle. In my second year, however, I learned that first year is not the only time to make friends. So, based on my experiences I have listed some tips below.
-Make it a goal to say hello and introduce yourself to each floor mate on your floor. It helps to have connections close by. Ask them if they want to go to an orientation event that day. Most relationships/introductions that you have in the first week are forgotten afterwards if you don’t follow up. It’s kind of like dating in that way, haha.
-Say hello/introduce yourself to someone new (from a different dorm/ off-campus) at orientation. Having friends that are not associated with your floor will keep you from sticking to your floor only.
-This is going to sound repetitive, but say hello/introduce yourself to the person next to you in each class for the first week of classes. It helps a ton to have someone off of whom you can bounce essay ideas, from whom you can get notes , and to whom you can complain about a professor.
-Go to every event, no matter how dumb they sound, and get someone to go with you for about 3/4 of them. Events are a great way to solidify bonds with new friends, and where you can form new ones. Going to events by yourself can boost your confidence, allow you to make new connections, and allows you to become comfortable with yourself.
-Join clubs/volunteer. Yes, I know, people say this all the time but it is true. I volunteered for my school’s student society when I was at UVIC and I really enjoyed it. It was nice to have a place where you were comfortable and knew everyone. It was also nice to know when events were happening. Plus, what else are you going to do in that 3 hour time block between english and sociology.
-Have study sessions with your tutorial groups. This gets you better grades and gives you a reliable time in which you know you will socialize. Sometimes we get so caught up in school that we realize we haven’t talked to another human being in 2 weeks. This is worse off-campus or during the winter months.
-Learn to prioritize your friends. This jumps off of my last point, but it’s one thing to have friends, it’s another to keep them. Your friendships won’t last if you do not make an effort to text them, hang out with them or even talk on a regular basis. Unlike high school, you are not very likely to have the same classes (it gets worse as you go up in years), and you lose the excuse of “Oh, I’ll see you in class.” If you don’t arrange a time to talk or visit. you probably won’t see each other.
Basically be an adult and put yourself out there. People will respond positively if you are positive. And once you have friends, treat them with respect.
Feel free to comment below if you want another post in the future. I am heading to a new school this year, so I will be putting these tips to practice myself.